When Art and Love Collide

Amanda Palmer has written a blog post about her marriage to Neil Gaimon.

People talk and write about relationships all the time. But very few people who are in the public eye do so.

I'm not referring to tabloid coverage of celebrities hooking up/splitting up/getting knocked up or any of that third-party reportage that is more often than not grounded in commercial greed than any kind of truth. What Amanda's post has done is made me want to applaud her - and her husband - for having the courage to let her art (writing and music) put the spotlight on her own marriage.


Amanda is well-known for her music with both Dresden Dolls and a solo artist. Neil is a hugely successful author and graphic novelist. Both have rabid fan bases. Both are active on social media. They are certain to see a powerful response from an exponentially widening circle of friends, fans, and readers who caught on virally. Stuff like this blog post.

In agreeing to let Amanda freely discuss their marriage and how the often wild process of creating their art can post a threat to their union (even while it probably was a main reason for them being attracted to each other in the first place), these two human beings are, I hope, helping themselves as much as they might be providing an "a-ha" to other artistic couples out there and those others (like me) who aspire to couple with a like mind and soul that is also driven to create art.

I also hope that it makes them stronger artists. They might have had the illusion of a more serene marriage had they not chosen to be so open and honest about themselves and one another, but that would not have lasted long. And their art would have suffered in the meantime. You cannot be a good artist and be dishonest.

Some people turn to writing (blogging or otherwise) when faced with a crisis or turning point in their lives. Amanda was going to write about this - Neil's new book, her new album, the effect that producing both had on each work of art and, symbiotically, how the art helped them to work through a very tough time - anyway. It's what she does as an artist. Why not be open about it? She has the most to lose, but also the most to gain.

Amanda's honesty has made me determined to both never marry an artist and commit my life to the best one I can find immediately. After all, whatever happens can turn into more art, right? That's not a bad thing.

Photo credit: Land Transport NZ. Amanda uses it to illustrate her & her husband's creative processes; I see it as a visual for relationships.

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